Go through your fails and pin down the reason for why it doesn’t work for you, all the things that only take space in your wardrobe and makes you uncomfortable when you think of them. I think that you deserve to feel good about yourself, your style, your clothes, your body and that the clothes that weigh on your conscience could go to someone else who might love and use them. Trading clothes with friends is wonderful, my old choir used to have days a few times a year where everyone brought the stuff they don’t use and some food, we all eat together in someone’s smallish apartment. There was the display show sort of like an auction where all the dresses would be shown and the size and then we had a fitting section all walking around in our underwear trying on stuff. If several persons wanted the same thing the one it looked best on got it and being caring persons, making sure that everyone found something was in everybody’s interest. We had a great time, got a few new things and left all that remained to the nearest charity shop. I highly recommend getting together and swapping away, being so many at a time required some organisation, only taking one category at a time, (accessories, jackets, dresses, trousers… ) but being 15-20 gave an amazing opportunity of finding some amazing stuff (once there was a pink 1960s silk chiffon dress fully lined and boned), and there was a few garments that made it trough half of the choir in a few years time.
For me what doesn’t work are
- pencil skirts
- low necklines; I just don’t feel comfortable
- tight sleeves
- cropped cardigans and sweaters
- raglan sleeves on sweaters and cardigans
- dresses without waist shaping
- bodices without back neck darts or yoke shaping
- bright red, I love it but it always fails when it comes to wearing it
Pinning down why something doesn’t work is really important when trying to prevent the same mistake from happening again.
As a maker it can be difficult to picture how something is going to look on you, but there is one way of getting a taste. Go and try a bunch of things on in a clothing store, there is no need to actually buy something but I think it can be amazing to go and try things you normally wouldn’t wear to see how a shape or colour looks on you. It is an opportunity to reflect on style and shape, and if you feel the urge to buy something: wait a week and see if you still want it in a weeks time.